Days after Stone Temple Pilots and Velvet Revolver singer Scott Weiland’s death, his ex-wife wrote a heart-wrenching open letter on his recent death and lifelong struggle with addiction. In the letter, Mary Forsberg Weiland urged readers not to glorify her ex-husband’s death and instead learn from his mistakes as a father and spend time with a child who needs love and mentorship.
She detailed Scott’s struggle to be a father to his children, Noah, 15, and Lucy, 13.
“December 3rd, 2015 is not the day Scott Weiland died,” Mary wrote. “The truth is, like so many other kids, they lost their father years ago. What they truly lost on December 3rd was hope.”
Mary explained that after Scott remarried, he no longer maintained contact with his children and would frequently skip child support payments, even excluding his children from his wedding.
Our once sweet Catholic boy refused to watch the kids participate in Christmas Eve plays because he was now an atheist. They have never set foot into his house, and they can’t remember the last time they saw him on a Father’s Day. I don’t share this with you to cast judgment, I do so because you most likely know at least one child in the same shoes. If you do, please acknowledge them and their experience. Offer to accompany them to the father-daughter dance, or teach them to throw a football.
Finally, she concluded the letter by urging fans not to glorify his death or romanticize his addiction, but to spend time with a child in need of love and support — much like Scott’s own children.
Our hope for Scott has died, but there is still hope for others. Let’s choose to make this the first time we don’t glorify this tragedy with talk of rock and roll and the demons that, by the way, don’t have to come with it. Skip the depressing T-shirt with 1967-2015 on it – use the money to take a kid to a ballgame or out for ice cream.